When adults feel overwhelmed by a child’s behavior, our reactions are often automatic, emotional, and unproductive. This session helps parents, teachers, and caregivers shift from reactive patterns to regulated, responsive actions that foster connection, collaboration, and long-term growth. Grounded in neuroscience, this trauma-informed workshop introduces the Hand Model of the Brain, the ST FEAR framework, and the Circle of Control to help participants understand and manage their own stress responses. Attendees will explore Radical Agency: the ability to pause and choose actions aligned with values and long-term goals. We’ll examine how our own narratives, attachment styles, and personality types influence how we react under stress—and how viewing behavior through a neurodevelopmental and developmentally appropriate lens leads to more effective, compassionate support for kids with ADHD. Participants will also identify their internal saboteurs—General, Escape Artist, Shadow, Chameleon, and Storyteller—each representing a different fight, flight, freeze, fawn, or fib stress response that shapes how we show up under pressure. You’ll leave with concrete tools to regulate yourself, decode your stress response, and support kids with ADHD using a calm, curious, and compassionate approach. This session reframes adult transformation as the critical starting point for behavior change.