When stress hits a family, couple, or team, many of us shift into familiar roles: one person overfunctions—organizing, fixing, worrying, and carrying the load—while another underfunctions, backing away, freezing, or shutting down. This session explores that over/underfunctioning “dance” as a predictable stress response rather than a character flaw. We’ll look at how roles get set, why they’re so hard to change (especially with ADHD in the mix), and how guilt, resentment, and burnout build over time. Most importantly, we’ll identify practical ways to step out of automatic roles, rebalance responsibility, and move toward more flexible, collaborative patterns—at home, at work, and within ourselves.