In relationships touched by ADHD—whether romantic, familial, professional, or social—an invisible tug-of-war often plays out. One person may over-function: taking control, doing too much, compensating for what isn’t getting done. The other may under-function: withdrawing, shutting down, or struggling to keep up. These patterns aren’t about laziness or control—they’re deeply rooted responses to the executive function challenges that come with ADHD. In this session, we’ll explore how overfunctioning and underfunctioning show up in a wide range of relationships, why they often become entrenched, and how they can lead to resentment, burnout, or disconnection on both sides. Drawing from neuroscience, real-life examples, and practical tools, we’ll uncover ways to bring more balance, understanding, and shared responsibility to ADHD-impacted relationships.